We humans are naturally drawn to people similar to us. That doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. Nor does it mean that you are racist, ableist, ageist, or any other –ist. It just means you are human. We like people who “get” us; who laugh at our jokes; who share background experiences; who think about the world in a way that supports our own beliefs. In short we like people who can act as an extension of ourselves. And this draw is powerful; it is innate and unconscious, and it pervades all our relationships and has a heavy influence on who we choose to hire.