I recently read an article called 12 Things Happy People Do Differently, and was struck by how closely it mirrored my recent thoughts. In fact, here are my tips for having a magical holiday season and a happier year to come. You’ll be amazed at the similarities.
No, I didn’t copy, it’s just that great minds think alike! (And speaking of great minds, be sure to check out what Dave and Lyn have to say this holiday season over at HR Official and The HR Bacon Hut).
Here are my tips for leading a happier life – In all honesty, I don’t always follow them but I am happier when I do:
- Assume the best – Assuming the best – even if you’re wrong – can give you the confidence and positive energy you need to find the best.
- Be grateful – There are countless people who have helped you get to where you are today. Be grateful to them and let the rest go.
- Be generous – A friend once said to me, ‘We are here to help each other.’ Is there anyone you can help or share with today, in the spirit of those who have helped and shared with you?
- Ask for help – No one can do everything alone, which is why the most successful people get lots of help. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you need and say thank you, in case you didn’t learn that one in kindergarten.
- Treat yourself – Obsessing about your own comfort or convenience is not the road to happiness but a facial or a little cake at the right moment goes a long way toward making everything right with the world.
- Make time for people – People are social animals and die sooner without meaningful social contact. Don’t make a habit of neglecting family and friends for things that don’t matter – and if you tell yourself you’re ‘doing it for them’ on a too regular basis, give yourself the hairy eyeball.
- Be in the moment – You’re sitting here reading this post, breathing air on a planet that circles a sun in a solar system in an enormous galaxy that is actually a tiny blip in an enormous universe made up primarily of nothing – or maybe bozons, I wasn’t totally clear on that. Let the shopping list go for a minute and really look at what’s around you.
- Be still – Shh! The health benefits of stillness are well documented. Find some time every day to be still and watch your thoughts. Get to know yourself.
- Believe in yourself – You will fail sometimes. That’s OK. Plan what you can plan and prepare what you can prepare. If it doesn’t work out, take it on the chin and move on.
- Have faith – Things have a funny way of working out. Be ready for that open door.
One more thing: I was once driving on an icy road when my windshield fluid ran out. My window promptly started to fog, making it difficult to see the oncoming traffic. And wouldn’t you know it, my cell phone was dead, so pulling over wasn’t an attractive option. I was just on the verge of getting really worried about the fact that I was driving 80km/hr on a 2-way road I could no longer see when a truck rattled by, narrowly missing me and splashing my windshield with some extra windshield fluid. The ice promptly melted and I could see again. Was that a miracle? I’m inclined to think it was, just like my kids are a miracle, autumn leaves are a miracle and social networks are a miracle.
Miracles are all around us.