Employee Engagement and Engaged Wellbeing with Attitiude
A Heretic’s Manifesto of Engaged Wellbeing: Let’s think (and act) differently just for the health of it.
A new view of wellbeing. I believe we have too much fluff and far too many mistaken notions about wellbeing and wellness at work. I have believed this for 30 years but just recently has it coalesced together into a Heretic’s Manifesto of Wellbeing. I do write about this frivolously having been an employee assistance counselor for 15 years and a university educator in educational and counseling psychology for 25 years. I have always though about wellbeing and wellness differently but now I decided to be more declarative about this personal positive deviancy.
A wellbeing epiphany. A few weeks ago, I was teaching a short course for blue collar workers on overcoming stress and engaged wellbeing. They were a skeptical group who did not necessarily want to be there and approached the topic with a high degree of defensiveness. This was no time for fluffy soft skills yet I wanted to fully contribute to their wellbeing and knew they could benefit from a focus on wellbeing that was real, robust and respectful. I deviated from my plan and realized this group’s rapt attention and interest was bringing out my personal weave of wellness in a way that even I had never fully heard before.
Dodging a bullet. When the session was over one of the guys came up at the end. He told me he hated motivational speakers and that he got nothing from them. Before the workshop he borrowed some change from a friend and his friend had a small caliber bullet in his pocket (gives you an idea of the audience) and he borrowed the change from his friend plus the bullet saying he may need it as he had to listen to some speaker (me). He handed me the bullet, the most creative expression of gratitude I have every received as a speaker, voiced a big thank you, and really did make my day!
Finding the inner heretic. The honest rant and direct communication with the group lead to the articulation of the following points.
33 Key Points From A Heretic’s Manifesto and Guide to Better Wellbeing at Work:
- We must find wellbeing inside of work and not wait until we are outside of work at the end of our day or in retirement.
- Hope is a misguided future perspective taking us away from where we can really make a difference.
- There is no stress in the present moment so strive to be where you are.
- Self-esteem is an evaluative trap that snares you like cheese snares a mouse before the snap in the trap.
- Life comes before work and there is no such thing as work/life balance.
- Well-being is only a concept until we engage in well-doing.
- Ignorance is more important than knowledge in fostering and enhancing wellbeing.
- People don’t actually hear most feedback unless they feel safe and safety is the only way to overcome most of our problems.
- Genuine caring trumps professional competence in helping relationships.
- Achieving happiness is a shallow and insignificant approach to living.
- Structure trumps willpower in wellbeing efforts.
- Powerful questions we ask ourself are the ideal WD40 for a brain clogged by an amygdala seizure.
- Wellbeing is strong stuff. We must know, live and leverage our strengths in the service of others.
- It take energy directed towards wellbeing to get energy and when you are depleted this is a real hindrance to experiencing wellbeing
- Relaxation is the anemic aspirin of stress management and can actually cause stress.
- What lessens your stress today could be a major contributor of stress tomorrow.
- There are no algorithmic certainties of wellbeing only heuristic probabilities of success.
- In life and work you are going to fart, fumble, and fall. You are human. It is not about avoiding falling down it is about how you pick yourself back up again. Everyone is screwed up: I am not okay, you are not okay and that is okay.
- Placebos are examples of caring made tangible.
- Employee wellbeing is not a soft skill just as accounting is not a hard skill. Wellbeing embraces fluid skills when the fixed parts of our life are in need of repair.
- Reality is overrated, living through positive illusion, not delusion, is powerful and practical.
- Wellbeing isn’t a personal endeavor it is a social phenomenon.
- Only you are responsible for your own wellbeing but others are accountable for your wellbeing just as you are accountable for their wellbeing.
- No one can upset you after 90 seconds.
- Compliance is the anemic byproduct of power.
- We do not resist change we resist coercion and what keeps us in place is the gravity of the familiar.
- If life throws you a lemon don’t make lemonade…duck.
- Positive thinking must be changed into a more authentic constructive thinking. Lots of bad things do happen and positive thinking does not make it go away.
- Bad is at least twice as salient as good in most situations so we must tip the scales of good for good.
- Most of what we know really isn’t so.
- Wellness tips like this without personal evaluation and experimentation can create a misguided tyranny of tips towards more stress. The Buddha said, “we must be a lamp unto ourselves.”
- Contradiction is only troublesome if you are locked into rigid thinking.
- Take a long shot, Charlie Chaplin once said, “life is a tragedy in close up and a comedy in long shot.” How long does it take you to get a long shot on things?
Are you ready for some engaged wellbeing with attitude? David Zinger would be delighted to offer this new workshop for your group, organization or conference. It can be delivered as a one hour speech to a half day workshop with audiences ranging from 10 people to a 10,000.
Contact David Zinger at [email protected] or phone him at 204 254 2130 to learn more or start on a new and authentic path to wellbeing.