There is an old saying I always liked that my grandmother used, “You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar”. A lot is summed up in those few words that leaders can use and remember.
I know that your workplace can be politically charged, even ugly sometimes. I know that you sometimes feel you have been purposely deceived or cheated. No matter who is causing you frustration or anger – use honey to address it instead of vinegar.
When you feel that flash of anger coming on, stop. Pause and ask yourself:
- Is it possible that I might be seeing this situation incorrectly?
- Was what I experienced what was intended by the other person? Was it really personal?
- How can I address this situation with kindness?
- What do I need to understand from the other person’s standpoint?
Step into the conversation with the person you feel deceived or hurt you – but use kindness (honey) in your conversation instead of anger (vinegar). You just may catch an ally, supporter, or friend (flies).