1 Life Fully Lived
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Life is about living to your utmost capacity. It’s about believing in yourself and coming from a place of gratitude. It’s about living from a place of possibility and positivity.
Unfortunately, a lot of people do not think this way and instead succumb to the negativity they are bombarded with everyday. From gossip, news, politics and entertainment, negativity sells. However, all of this bad energy does not create, enable or contribute to anyone’s long-term success or happiness.
Moreover, there’s usually too much focus on what you lack and what you need to improve. This thinking leaves you coming from a negative place, or deficit. While it’s always good to acknowledge where you need to improve, and work on self-development, it’s even better to recognize the gifts, talents and beautiful abilities in you and others around you, even if you do not know them. Doesn’t it feel better to smile vs. frown at a friend? Doesn’t it feel better, when someone says nice things about you vs. cutting you down (especially when they don’t even know you)?
Change the way you see everything
The flipside of all this negativity is Asset Based Thinking or ABT. ABT is a way of thinking where you rely on your strengths, see problems as opportunities and focus on what can be done as opposed to what can’t. The idea behind ABT is that when you work from strengths, possibilities and what is good, you become more creative, resilient, caring, optimistic and confident.
This way of thinking and changing the way you see everything is like a boost of energy and a key that unlocks the door to you personal freedom. Isn’t this a whole lot better than coming from the negative and sitting like a lump on the sofa dwelling on all of the reasons you can’t have this or do that?
The book “Change the Way You See Everything Through Asset-Based Thinking for Teens”, has great tools and exercises to help build and reinforce your ABT muscles and live the life you daydream about. Don’t you want to make those daydreams a reality? Designing your life around ABT is not positive thinking fairly tales, but a way to take responsibility for your thoughts and your actions. A way to take responsibility for how you see the world and how you react to what life can give you. Life is filled with choice, even when it doesn’t seem like it. You just have to change the way you see things.
Refocus your lens
Refocus the lens through which you see by concentrating on these three core principles:
- Your strengths – what is unique and best about you, those around you and the world?
- What is possible, what are the opportunities, what can be done?
- What is working, what is going well, what is great right now?
We work with many adults on these same principles to help them be happier, hit their goals and achieve their dreams. It is a lot more difficult to start using ABT as an adult because adults have had a lot longer time practicing deficit based (negative) thinking/habits.
You are your habits
You are your habits. You become what you practice most. The longer you practice bad habits, the harder they are to break and more difficult it is to create good ones (ABT). Good habits are the ones that will get you what you want out of life.
Take the opportunity to start ABT now and save yourself years of wasted time
getting in your own way of achieving what it is you really want out of life. It may not seem like it today, but life is short so start making the most of it now.
Grab your friends and get going!
So why not start creating good ABT habits now and get ahead of the game? Grab a couple friends and a couple copies of “Change the Way You See Everything Through Asset-Based Thinking for Teens” and work through the exercises together. Even take it a step further and challenge your parents to join you and work through the adult version of the book “Change the Way You See Everything Through Asset-Based Thinking”. The more asset based thinkers you surround yourself with the more collective energy you will have to get out there and accomplish all your heat desires!
We know you will do great as we are believers in and users of ABT.
Derek Lauber & Sara Hawerlander
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