week also, and he told me you did not return his call.”
from the near economic collapse. During that era, I was in the publishing
business which was (and still is) being decimated by the digital era.
this effect on industry. A lot of people get thrown overboard as companies try
to find the rudder to steady the ship.
Some of us, on the other hand, were a bit more nimble , and like an acrobat, landed at the right
spot at the right time. We could also have been among the ones that faltered,
but we were able to brush ourselves off and get back on track.
for me. One of my dear friends from my days at died
We toiled there for years and we rode
the roller coaster to career success, both of us getting to the vice
presidential level. He was a fellow executive who was there when I got there,
and he was still there when I decided to leap off that fast-moving train.
you and you never give thought that one day you could arrive and be “ambushed”
too. Just like that, you are out of a job.
to next step, never had a career plan. The problem with this approach is that
searching for a job today is 180 degrees different than it used to be “back in
talked, I mentored, I coached, and we stayed connected. I always took his calls
at any time of the day or night, and I made sure that I always called back.
to live my life. Someone mentioned to me last week that “you are HR 100 percent
of the time.” I took that as a badge of honor.
probably over the last few years, some of you have also received calls, emails,
and request from people like my friend. I have even reached out to people on
behalf of other professionals and not gotten a response. My question is, what
happened to us?
the confidence they wore like a suit of armor that is now in shreds, and yet we
ignore the calls, we duck, we do not respond, we don’t even say “there is
nothing I can do.” We get a call for help and we keep life on cruise control,
mindlessly headed to our next destination. Some of us just do not want to get
despite being immensely qualified, like so many others.
a few years was such that now, no one would return his calls. He was longer the
VP. He had always been there for people, and he just could not understand why
now they were not there for him.
are on top, emails are returned and are at the top of the pile. You think
nothing of it because you are on top of the world.
change. The people that would gladly collaborate with you are now so busy that
can’t return the phone call or respond to the message. That complete change in
dynamics is hard for the fallen to understand.
career height, you can also be brought down at the snap of a finger. Think of
it this way: you job and level is only temporary. You will probably not
retire there, and you will not be there forever. Those are the NEW career
coffee, lunch, email, phone call, or whatever you can do. That friend who
always calls would be uplifted if you would just take the time to call them
once in a while rather than having them call you all the time.
have left for you rather than making them having to keep on calling until they
get an answer?
busy, and we know they are on our side. We also know that they’re very busy and
are not ignoring us for some negative reason. They are being uncommunicative
simply because they’re pressed for time, which is why it’s not necessary to
take it too personally.
not to get a little frustrated. We all have busy lives. I am constantly running
from one place to another, stressed out over trying to get everything done,
with very little time left for myself. We can all be somewhat guilty of this,
and we can all fail to return phone calls at times due to being in a harried
state of mind.
asking us to call them, we can’t even find five minutes to do so?
email, Facebook, LinkedIn, or others for acknowledging that you did actually
receive the message and will schedule a time to follow up. That is what you
would do with a customer or some other “important” individual. You would never
leave them hanging.
have to stay in touch. We have to follow-up with our friends
depressed. One of the things that he would always bring up was that the peers
he knew as he climbed the ladder, the ones that had him on speed dial, would
not return his calls and emails when he most needed it. He just could not
of because I have heard the same story from numerous people in the same
situation. But, I always want to believe that we, as humans, are better than
this. We need to rethink our lives and our connections to the people in it.
busy to NOT return a phone call. Nobody is too busy to NOT pick up the
phone to brighten someone’s day.
have their number, and we have all of their contact information.
happy they were to hear from you? Well that shows that connecting is a two-way
street. When we give, we get back.
ignore it, or that email comes in and you glance at it and move on, DON’T.
only help the person on the other end, but also makes us better human beings