All year long, I’ve been asking disruptive heroes from all over the world three simple questions. Each interviewee continually said “These are great questions. They really made me think!”
Then one of the interviewees, leadership guru Erika Andersen, blogged on Forbes.com about the power of those questions… That they “provide a simple yet powerful way to get yourself more comfortable with disruption.” The following includes some of Erika’s explanation about how these questions can help you…
Anyone who radically changed/affected what you know or believe, or what you felt or experienced, or what you do. A teacher, a parent, a friend, a boss, a mentor, a leader, etc… Anyone you had direct contact with who changed the path of your life.
> > > By reflecting on someone who you consider both a personal hero and a disruptor, you start to make the connection between disruption and positive change. You honor those in your life who have challenged you, shifted you, maybe even blown up some comfortable assumptions…and that it has been, ultimately, good for you. The more you can see that the biggest disruptors in your life can also be those who are most helpful to us — you start relaxing into ‘being disrupted’ in a whole new way.
Something that has completely changed how you think or what you do or how you relate to others or how you work… A technology, an event, an experience, a freedom, etc.
> > > By realizing that you can have a ‘favorite’ disruption — not the one that was least bad, or one you gritted your teeth and made it through — you realize that many of the disruptive changes you’ve come to see as positive were, at some point, awkward or painful. So the next time some disruption is making you crazy, you can say to yourself, “six months or a year from now — this might be my favorite disruption.”
Something that is completely changing how you think or what you do or how you relate to others or how you work… A technology, a requirement, a way of doing things, a responsibility, etc.
> > > This question gives you permission to struggle with disruption. Even extremely successful people find big relief in simply acknowledging that the struggle is OK and that, maybe, they could be responding to it differently. It’s OK for you to admit that to yourself too!
Disruptive changes can be both exhilarating and wonderful, and awkward, uncomfortable, out of control and scary.
Answering these three questions help you see a lot more of the amazing side of disruptive changes, as well as helping you surf the tough waves of disruption — that this, too, shall pass.