over my head for the past 4.5 years has been the gnarly cloud of
knowledge that 50 was looming over my near future. Sure enough, the
future is all too quickly approaching and with just six months left I’m
I have been told age is only a number, you’re as young as you feel,
after 50 women are more appealing, you’re young at heart and you ‘still
look young’. This is not the time for niceties. This is a call for
The age of 50 is very deceiving. We tend to think of 50 as half —
50%, half a century, half a dollar, etc.. It’s way past the half life
mark however for the average American woman according to the
report, “Deaths: Preliminary Data for 2003,” by CDC’s National
Center for Health Statistics which says is 80.5 years is the average
life expectancy for white females — of which I am one.
That means I have 31 expected years left in me… not nearly enough. I
now have more things than ever I want to do and less time than ever to
do them. I need to defy the odds.
AARP will never, I repeat, never be my friend or welcome in
my mailbox and it’s becoming clearer to me by the day why people
desperately want to believe in reincarnation, life after death,
heaven, and places like eternal paradise. Because people start to
appear on the Grim Reaper’s radar at 50 and frankly that’s cause
Add in comments like the one I heard a few weeks ago from a 20 year
old college student I was career coaching, “I don’t want to work with
old people in their 50’s because they’re slow” — and though I
personally have never felt discriminated against in the workplace
for any reason, I can only imagine it’s just around the corner. I was
safe with sonny boy, he thought I was his mother’s age, 38.
So, today when I posted
I am thinking, thinking, still more thinking and cannot stop
thinking about turning 50 in 2012. I’m not exactly embracing the
I was pleasantly surprised by the lively, interesting, lengthy
and engaging dialog that ensued on women aging ( I can’t believe I’m
‘aging’). Try as we might to come up with acceptable alternatives we
couldn’t. With the exception a couple of conciliatory comments
from men, they largely (and smartly) avoided the thread and left women
to try as they may to figure it out.
The US market generates about $50 billion of revenue each year
in ‘anti-aging’ products, mainly nutritional, physical fitness,
skin care, hormone replacements, vitamins and herbs — while medical
experts to include the American Medical Association, state that
the use of such products has not been shown to affect the aging
process. Desperate suckers do desperate things…
While I wait for Raymond Kurzweil’s prediction that advanced medical nanorobotics could completely remedy the effects of aging by 2030 to come true, Mina Bourque provided some respite. She posted two links on the Facebook convo that provided hope.
The first was a piece on the late Andy Rooney, who in all his wisdom factually stated among other truths, “A
woman over forty will never wake you in the middle of the night to
ask, “What are you thinking?” She doesn’t care what you think”.
The second was a film project needing funding by Terry Hardesty on KICKSTARTER, New Wrinkle.
Older workers, nowhere near retirement age, feel the pressure to
inject themselves with botox to go on an interview. They fear they
will be left homeless because they look “tired” and “frumpy.”
I watched the video and immediately donated $25. Terry, I’m counting on you to help me live forever.……
P.S. Seriously now, watch the video and consider helping Terry
reach her funding goal — for the good of women everywhere. After all,
we have to have each other’s backs.