In a recent blog, top ranked executive coach and best-selling author, Marshall Goldsmith outlines 20 behaviors that even the most successful people need to stop.
We recently partnered with Marshall to create a suite of Layered Learning℠ modules for overcoming these 20 leadership challenges, including engaging stories, insights and best practices from his New York Times best seller What Got You Here Won’t Get You There. Click here more information on accessing these modules for free.
Marshall says the first step in using ‘what to stop’ in coaching and leadership development is to identify which behavior(s) to stop. The following are 20 bad habits/behaviors he identifies that may keep leaders from achieving higher levels of success:
- Winning too much: The need to win at all costs and in all situations.
- Adding too much value: The overwhelming desire to add our two cents to every discussion.
- Passing judgment: The need to rate others and impose our standards on them.
- Making destructive comments: The needless sarcasm and cutting remarks that we think make us witty.
- Starting with “No,” “But,” or “However”: The overuse of these negative qualifiers, which secretly say to everyone “I’m right and you’re wrong.”
- Telling the world how smart we are: The need to show people we’re smarter than they think we are.
- Speaking when angry: Using emotional volatility as a management tool.
- Negativity, or “Let me explain why that won’t work”: The need to share our negative thoughts even when we weren’t asked.
- Withholding information: The refusal to share information in order to maintain an advantage over others.
- Failing to give proper recognition: The inability to give praise and reward.
- Claiming credit that that we don’t deserve: The most annoying way to overestimate our contributions to any success.
- Making excuses: The need to reposition our annoying behavior as a permanent fixture so people excuse us for it.
- Clinging to the past: The need to deflect blame away from ourselves and onto events and people from our past; a subset of blaming everyone else.
- Playing favorites: Failing to see that we are treating someone unfairly.
- Refusing to express regret: The inability to take responsibility for our actions, admit we’re wrong, or recognize how our actions affect others.
- Not listening: The most passive-aggressive form of disrespect for colleagues.
- Failing to express gratitude: The most basic form of bad manners.
- Punishing the messenger: The misguided need to attack the innocent who are usually only trying to help us.
- Passing the buck: The need to blame everyone but ourselves.
- An excessive need to be “me”: Exalting our faults as virtues simply because they’re who we are.
Be honest, do you identify with any of the habits above? I can recognize 5 of these habits in myself (1, 2, 6, 7 & 13)…darn it, here I was thinking I was practically perfect!
Now that I’ve identified these habits, I am committing to improving them using our Layered Learning℠ modules over the next 4 weeks! Who’s with me?! Beuller….?
I’ll keep you updated on my challenges and progress along the way.
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